Did anyone else see this morning's Dear Amy? I'll wait while you go read the first question...
Okay, the writer sounds like a SMBC who has been very open with her daughter about the daughter's conception. All good in my book. The part that bothered me was "that he may not be the man she's dreamed of all these years." It sounds to me that the mother allowed her daughter to romanticize the donor so that he could fill a gap in her life. Instead of seeing the donor in more clinical terms, she imagined him being at her graduation and walking her down the aisle. Somehow, she missed the message that "donor" does not equal "father".
Why are there so many reports of this phenomena? Is it just because that is what is sensational and will sell newspapers/movies/magazine articles?
Frankly, while I completely support a child knowing his genetic heritage, I am glad that there is no way to know our donor. I know Ben will have questions about who this man is/was and we'll rely heavily on the long donor profile and whatever genetic information we can gather on our end (23 and Me or the like) to answer as many questions as we can. I just hope that is enough. If he decides to go on a donor search, I'll support him, but I know Louis and I will make sure that it isn't because he's looking for his "father". His father is right here.
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